Sunday, September 30, 2007

My Favorite Things

I must confess that I feel so good right now. I worked out and then I did my usual Sunday ritual of pampering myself. It is oh so nice!

My ritual starts with a microdelivery peel. It is a 2 step process, but it only takes 3 minutes. The first step is vitamin c crystals which smell like orange juice. The second step is peptides which gently heat up the crystals. My skin actually glows when I'm done.

After my peel I jump in the bathtub and cover myself in philosophy's old fashioned lemonade salt scrub. To say I absolutely love this product is an understatement! My skin feels amazing afterwards.

Next, I wash with one of several shower gels that line the rim of my bathtub. My favorite is lemonade, but the others are very nice too. I used to make my own shower gel which was the best shower gel that I have ever seen. I was lucky enough to have a supplier that sold an amazing base and I added various yummy smelling scents to it. I am so busy now with promoting and building Cherished Gifts & Favors that I no longer have time to make shower gel. I miss making it, but philosophy's shower gels are a nice substitute.

After my relaxing shower I cover myself in Philosophy's pink lemonade body butter. I love putting on body butter and lotion after using my salt scrub. My skin already feels smooth as silk and the lotion is just icing on the cake. I feel so wonderful (and smell so good) after I indulge in my Sunday ritual. If you haven't tried philosophy's products I highly recommend them.

I really needed my ritual to destress me today. My 3 year old has been sick on and off since starting preschool the week before Labor Day. My husband took him to the doctor Thursday, but he has been getting worse since then. This weekend has been really long and trying since he hasn't felt good. I hate seeing my baby sick.

Wednesday, September 26, 2007

A Special Thanks!

Sending out a special thanks to Leigh Ann of Save Leigh Ann tonight for her nice contribution that gets me one step closer to quitting my job and closer to my vision for Cherished Gifts & Favors.

As she cleverly stated if only 28,999 people did the same as her then my dream of quitting my job and building my business full time would be realized.

Whether everybody sends me $2 to add to my business bank account or I build it alone, I'm holding on tight to my dreams and not letting go. This is America and dreams still come true!

Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Another Day Another Dollar

After the stressful week I had last week I spent the entire weekend trying to relax. I usually try to unwind by pampering myself. The more stressed I am the more I pamper! The last few days I've really tried to focus on the pampering because I can tell my body is feeling the affects of my stress. I haven't been sleeping good and my back and shoulders are in knots from tension.

I didn't go overboard on the pampering this weekend, but I did indulge in long baths, 2 one mile walks with my son, 2 naps, and lots of exercise to loosen up my body. Sunday I tried to get my mind off everything by having lunch with my family at a beach side restaurant. It was a perfect way to spend an afternoon. The wind was blowing a cool breeze causing big waves in the water and a gentle breeze to hit my skin. It was so refreshing to look over the snow white sand to see the sun glimmering in the water. Ohhh how I enjoy living in a beach town.

My attempts to relax this weekend didn't seem to be doing much to relieve the tension in my back and shoulders. By Sunday afternoon I was really hurting. I came up with the brilliant idea of having my son walk on my back. He thought it was a lot of fun and it did wonders for the tightness in my shoulders. I was able to get a massage this afternoon which has also helped a little. Of course I always wait till my body is really in bad shape before I get a massage. As a result, the massage always hurts and I have to schedule another one for the following week in order to finish getting all of the knots out of my back. Today was no different.

Work has been really busy this week, but things seem to be changing for the better. A few new policies are in place (finally) so maybe the office will be a little less stressed from now on. I am trying to be optimistic that things will get better. The receptionist has decided to come back to work due to the new policies being in place. She is going to give it a little while to see if the changes will stick or if things will go back to the way they were. It is sad that it had to come to her quitting before any changes were made at the office, but that is how my office works. We have to take dramatic steps in order for any changes to be made.

Last year I had to inform my boss that I had 2 other job offers in order to get a raise. Of course it is all in the timing. A person had quit and if I had quit too the office would have been down to 1 person selling/servicing insurance. A licensed insurance agent is hard to come by so I ended up getting a $7,500 raise. It sounds like a nice size pay increase, but the office was so far behind in the pay scale that it really only increased my pay to what others in the area are making.

Florida has become a very expensive state to live in the last few years. I kept wondering why it seemed like I was struggling financially, then one day it hit me that my pay hasn't kept up with the cost of living in Florida. Gas, food, electricity, and property taxes have all dramatically increased, but my pay hadn't. My home owners insurance has also went from $450 to $3,700 in the last seven years even though I still live in the same house. No wonder it seemed like I didn't have any money left over with after my bills were paid.

Thursday, September 20, 2007

My Personal Crisis

I haven't posted much this week. Unfortunately work has gotten me down, mentally and physically. I hate when I let work get to me, but this week it has. A few months ago we went from 4 people to 3 at my office. My boss refused to hire someone to replace the person who left because he said business wasn't what it used to be. After the 4Th person left we were down to 2 sales & service people and a receptionist. The other sales & service person happens to be the so called manager and she has the cushy job of doing in service for the office/agent 2 days a month. I'm the lucky one who gets to do her job and mine while she is suppose to be doing the bills. I have no idea how in the world it takes a whole day to do bills, but that is what she gets each month. In addition to that she likes to take 30 to 40 minute bank runs to a bank 2 blocks away and she loves her hour and fifteen minutes to hour and a half lunches. It really gets fun when one of us is on vacation for a week.

Tuesday the receptionist who had been there for 10 years had all the crap she could take. It was just the 2 of us in the office and she was broke out in hives all day due to the stress. She had been threatening to leave for a long time, but only had the courage to do it Tuesday. She told me she was going to get her stuff after work and then leave a note on her desk stating that she couldn't take it anymore.

I'm so proud of her. She finally had the courage to do it. She is single and can always move back home till she gets a job. Normally I would be upset if someone didn't give a 2 week notice, but with Tracy I totally understand and support her.

My boss is trying to get her back, but I don't think Tracy is coming back. I wouldn't! He told her things would change, but I don't see that happening. I would try to be optimistic, but we have been down that road before when others have left and things have never changed.

All of the stress is truly making me want to leave too. I know my full time job is stopping me from building my business to the level I want it to be, but until Cherished Gifts & Favors gets bigger I need the income from my full time job. I am so frustrated because I have so many goals and dreams for my business, but at this point money is keeping me from doing them. If I were single I would do whatever it took to get the money I need to build my business. I am willing to live off credit cards until my business grows, but my husband is really scared of the idea. I know the idea isn't perfect by any means, but I believe in my business, myself, and my dreams. I'm ready to say the hell with my full time job and go for my dreams with everything I have in me.

My husband and I have discussed this issue on a daily basis this week. I am trying to hold off quitting as long as I can, but it gets harder every day. The stress at work has really gotten to me this week. My back and shoulders are full of tension and I'm mentally exhausted. Last night I didn't even have enough energy to post a blog or most importantly do anything business related. I just laid on the couch and zoned out. I rarely ever do that. It seems like a big waste of precious time to spend a whole evening doing nothing when I could be working on business stuff instead.

On the bright side, my husband said he will help me with my eBay Store this weekend if I teach him how to add listings. Wedding season is winding down, but the holiday season will be picking up soon. I need to have all of my personalized gifts and party favors listed in my eBay store before the holiday shopping season starts in a few weeks.

Monday, September 17, 2007

So Tired!

I'm exhausted tonight. It was a long weekend. I know weekends aren't supposed to be long, but mine truly was. It was consumed by updating (long over due) my eBay Store and taking care of my son who wasn't feeling so good. I was up till 2:00 am Saturday morning working on my store and till 5:00 am Sunday morning with Colin.

Needless to say, I wasn't looking forward to going back to work today. Of course, I always hate going back to work on Mondays. I truly dislike my job more and more each day. It isn't a bad job, but I want so much to devote all of my time to building my business. It is a catch 22. I need to expand my business/customer base in order to quit my full time job, but my job takes up so much time that it is keeping me from building Cherished Gifts & Favors. If it was just me, I would sell my house, live off credit cards, whatever it took to achieve my business goals. However, I have a husband and son to think about. My husband isn't too keen on me quitting just yet, but I absolutely detest wasting my days away working for someone else when I have tons of business goals and dreams that I want to pursue. This is a daily struggle for me.

Wednesday, September 12, 2007

Expensive Date ~ Can I Expect Sex?

I thought I would have the TV playing in the background while I work on my website tonight. Dr 90210 happens to be on E! and it is cracking me up. One of the doctors is going on a blind date with someone his adult daughter set him up with. He tells her that he is paying $1100 dollars for the date and he wants to know what he can expect in return. A kiss or can he expect sex? His daughter informed him that just because he is spending a lot of money on his date doesn't mean that he is entitled to sex. He protests, but she insists that money spent doesn't equal sex in return. I can't believe she is having to tell her dad that!

It gets better. He is taking his date to a restaurant where they will be eating food off a beautiful naked model. Ok! Is it just me or would that be a strange job to have? You have to look totally gorgeous and appear as if it is the most natural thing to have people eat off you while you are laying naked on a table. To make things even better what if your guests decide to start arguing or making out? You just have to lay there and smile. Since the Dr. is eating off the model can he expect to have sex with her too?

Fall Issue

I just received an e-mail containing the ad & featured editorial displaying my fall wedding favors for the fall issue of Emerald Coast Brides. It looks so good!! And YES, they did remember to include my name this time! See my Aug. 1 post for info about the summer issue featuring my gifts.

The magazine is sold in 5 southern states and is available free on line and at various bridal shows. Walmart is picking up the magazine now which is big news around here! Southern folks love Walmart!

For anyone interested in seeing my elegant wedding favors and gifts, I mean getting a copy of the magazine, it will be available Oct. 15Th.

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Hate The Tape

I recently purchased a few new semi - low cut shirts that like to gap open a little and show my bra. I absolutely hate that so I decided to buy some Hollywood Fashion Tape to keep my bra hidden like it should be. After reading about Hollywood Fashion Tape on Daily Candy and Grown*Up Girlie it seemed like a great product for me. It was not!

It may have been me or it may have been the material of the shirt, but my shirt would not stay in place. Every time I looked down the tape was showing. I adjusted and readjusted the tape, but it was to no avail. I was able to keep the tape hidden for the first two hours at work, but then I got caught in a particularly embarrassing situation.

I had a client in my office when I felt my shirt come unstuck from the tape. I am in the middle of trying to explain why homeowners rates are so high in Florida when I see the tape clearly visible on my chest. I tried the best I could to pull my shirt over to hide the tape without trying to appear to obvious. It didn't work. I tugged and tugged at my shirt, tried to prop my arm on my desk, and mess with my necklace, but there was no hiding my tape. The couple at my desk pretended not to notice, but I am sure they were wondering why in the world I have tape stuck to my chest. LOL!

I finally made up some excuse to leave the room and went to through the piece of tape away. The other piece of fashion tape hit the trash a couple of hours later. I had had enough!


Fashionista and "with it" style girl I am not!

Monday, September 10, 2007

A Day In My Life

The last few days at work have been really crazy. Last Thursday and Friday were the worst. It started on Thursday morning when my customer called to report a claim. She was confused on how the process worked, but still felt the need to tell me that I wasn't filing the claim right. I tried to explain the company's procedure, but me who has worked for the company for 7 years was incapable of doing it correctly. Ok, no problem. I tried to get past that issue and move on with the process of filing the claim. It was like pulling teeth trying to get her to give me the little bit of information I needed to file her claim with the claims office.

After finally getting the info from her and knowing I wasn't lucky enough to be done with the claim, she calls back and wants a copy of everything I wrote in the claim report. Sure, fine, whatever. I file the claim based on the info she gives me and the claims office handles it from there. If I entered incorrect info then she has the chance to clear it up with the claims office. Simple concept, but for some reason it wasn't simple in this case.

Overnight she leaves a message saying she is canceling her apt. to get her car fixed and will be in later to talk to me. I knew there was nothing I could do for her because my hands are tied after the claim is reported to the claims office. To try to prevent any further problems and to make things easier for her, I call the adjuster to let them know that she doesn't seem to understand the things I explained to her the day before. Sometimes people respond better to someone they think has some "authority" like an "official claims adjuster". The claims adjuster tried to help like I did, but my customer refused to speak to her when she called. My customer then proceeds to come into my office and speak to me like I am the biggest moron on this planet. She doesn't believe me that I ask the adjuster (the person she refused to speak to) to cancel her apt with the body shop. She demands to hear me tell the claims office the apt needs to be canceled. Lovely...

I call the claims office and get a receptionist (lucky for the adjuster who was at lunch) and explain that I have already asked the adjuster to cancel the apt., but the customer doesn't believe me. I explain the customer is being very ugly to me and insists that she hears for herself the apt has been canceled. I then tell the receptionist that I am going to put the customer on the phone. For some unknown reason the receptionist puts us on hold while I hand the phone to the customer. My customer then proceeds to accuse me of hanging up on her. She doesn't buy the idea the receptionist may have had to put her on hold to answer another phone. She keeps on accusing me of hanging up on the lady until I finally tell her that if she really feels that I have hung up on her then she is welcome to dial the number again herself and speak to the receptionist. Hey, if I am too stupid to figure out how to use the phone on the first call, then how in the hell can I be smart enough to get the women back on the phone so the customer can speak to her? About that time the receptionist comes back on the line. Yeah!!

As I listen to my customer talk to the receptionist for the next few minutes I calmly try to tell myself that I am where I am supposed to be in my life right now. I have no idea why I am stuck in this job that I hate instead of being able to devote my full attention to my business, but for some reason I am here. I have to tell myself this several times because by this point I am really PISSED. As I listen to my customer ramble on for a few more minutes I can tell that she isn't really making any sense nor is she making a very good case for herself as to why she felt she was getting bad service from me. She then hangs up the phone, but only before asking for proof in writing that her apt. has been canceled. That still makes me laugh since it was only apt. with the body shop. They don't charge you for not fixing your car. Plus, she could have called the shop herself to let them know she decided not to get her vehicle fixed. LOL!

When she finally leaves I truly feel sorry for her. She is older and confused. I know I was professional and did everything I could try to help her with her claim. She was unable to understand many of the things I tried to explain to her and she refused help when an adjuster tried to assist her. With that said it still made for a crappy day. I spent the whole weekend trying unwind and get myself in a better place mentally. Needless to say I was not looking forward to going back to work today. However, with each day I am one order and one day closer to turning my dreams for my business into a reality.




Web Maintenance

Does anybody have any good recommendations for companies that offer website maintenance services? I need some work done on my website, Cherished Gifts & Favors, but can't seem to find a good company to do it. I am currently using a company that used to be really great. The company was located in Hawaii and had an excellent staff. In the last year one of the partners sold out and the company moved to Silicon Valley. The staff is friendly, but I can't seem to get them to do changes to my website in a timely matter. I'm currently waiting on changes to be done that I requested almost a month ago. Not very impressive! From my past experience and from what I have heard from other people and companies, good webmasters are very hard to come by. If you happen to be working with one, considered yourself VERY blessed.

Wednesday, September 5, 2007

I Need Help!!!

Tonight I have encountered some big problems with Outlook Express. When I first opened up my e-mail I got a "receiving" message. That is normal, however to still be getting the message after 2 hours is not. I got out of Outlook Express, shut down my computer, got back into Outlook, and deleted tons of old e-mails in my "sent" and "deleted" folders to try to fix the error. Still problems. After 2 hours, I went to my e-mail account on line and went through all of my e-mail accounts. Turns out one of my suppliers sent me 2 e-mail newletters. For some reason, one was having a challenge getting downloaded to Outlook on my desktop. I deleted the newsletter and I was good to go. Cool!

THEN, I noticed my long list of folders looked a little shorter than normal. Somehow 2 of my folders mysterioulsy dissappeared. Two IMPORTANT business folders I might add. I didn't delete the folders, but maybe some how the contents of those two folders ended up in my deleted e-mails. I have spent the last 2 hours trying to figure out how in the world to recover those precious folders. Normally it is very simple to recover lost e-mails. You go to "tools" and click on a wonderful little option called "restore deleted e-mails". For some unknown reason I don't have that option in my Outlook Express. The "help" section in Outlook states it is there, but it is not. It is there in Outlook at my full time job, but at home it is not. PERFECT!!

Does any one have any clue how or if it is even possible to recover my lost folders? If so, can you please enlighten me how to do it? It seems like there has to be a way to retrieve them, but I'm at a loss as to how.

Monday, September 3, 2007

Weekly Update ~ Week 8

Last week seems like a blur. I guess the long weekend has kind of thrown me off schedule a little. However, I hate the thought of going back to work tomorrow. Business is picking up, but I'm still not close to being able to quit my full time job. I had hoped to be able to quit on Nov. 26Th which just happens to be my 35Th birthday. Unless Oprah, another celebrity, or some other big event comes my way I'll have to keep working for a while. It truly sucks, but I'm doing everything I possibly can to build my business. I've been praying, promoting, and putting my whole heart into my business for the last 4 years; three of the years I was making candles, and for the last year and 5 months, Cherished Gifts & Favors.

In the past I've gotten really stressed because there is so much to do and it doesn't seem like there is enough time in the day to get everything accomplished for my business or my personal life. I finally made peace with it all and realized God made me the way I am. He gave me the dreams that I have, the entrepreneurial spirit, the drive, and passion for my business. Even though it can be a real challenge sometimes to do, I have begun to tell myself that at this time (for reasons still unknown to me) I am right where I am suppose to be in my life. I am doing everything I possibly can to build my business. The rest is in God's hands. He gave me the dreams and goals that I have for my life. I am working very hard to make them happen and he will take care of anything I can not do.